Anti Bullying Week - 15th to 19 November
Anti-Bullying Week is coordinated In England and Wales by the Anti-Bullying Alliance and takes place from 15 to 19 November 2021, this year it has the theme One Kind Word. The Anti-Bullying Alliance has lots of specialist advice for parents and a list of sources of support. Your child is unique and we hope there are some takeaways here that work for you.
Things you can try
- Try not to get angry or upset or try to fix things
- Bullying can include things like hitting, threatening, unkind teasing and leaving someone out on purpose. Thinking about your child experiencing any of this can be really painful. But it’s important to put your feelings to one side.
- Try to listen rather than react. Sit down with your child and let them know you are listening. You can do that by repeating back what they’ve told you.
- Help them understand what bullying means. When a child falls out with their friends it can be painful and difficult, but it is different from bullying. And it’s important to make the distinction between rude and mean behaviour and bullying. Bullying behaviour is intended to hurt someone AND repeated.
- Reassure your child that it’s not their fault.
- There is still a stigma around bullying. Children can feel like they’ve done something to deserve it. You can help them see that’s not true and that bullying should always be called out.
- Try saying, “You are very brave for telling me. None of this is your fault. What you’ve been going through sounds horrible, all children deserve to feel safe at school”.
Understand more about bullying
- Help your child to come up with ideas about how to make things better.
- If your child is being bullied their behaviour may change. For example, they may be quieter or angrier than usual. Or they might fall behind or not want to go to school.
- If we work with them to find a solution, we can help them to feel better. Like they are more in control of the situation.
- Ask your child: "What would you like me to do to make this better/to help?" rather than just taking over. Including them in decisions will avoid more stress and worry for them.
Read about rescue vs. support
- Celebrate your child’s strengths and differences.
- Help them see they are unique and fantastic just the way they are. Look for activities that will boost their confidence and self-esteem. This will help them keep the bullying in perspective. And it’s a chance to make new friends.
- Make an appointment to talk to someone at school. If you feel you can’t do this on your own. Make an appointment to talk to someone at school so you can think things through together.